Years ago, my confidence was in the dumpster under some banana peels.
Like you, I knew I was a good catch so I couldn’t figure out for the life of me why I kept striking out in the dating arena. FED UP...I realized I needed to take a step back. CLEARLY, I wasn’t in a relationship soooo... I had some time and space to get to the bottom of this.
Time PLUS my natural tendency to explore things that are perplexing caused me to begin approaching my dating relationships with more innocent curiosity. I wanted to figure out what I was missing.
Welp, the first thing I found out was that either I wasn’t the brightest person or I was a glutton for punishment because I literally kept choosing the same guy over and over again.
Then, I noticed something I’d always felt before but never had language for... DATING IS AWKWARD! You put two strangers together who, at the end of the day, have the same goal but very different ways of going about it.
What’s the goal? Not being rejected. You see, no matter the actual outcome or the desired target outcome (having “fun,” something to do, “cut buddy,” #JustUs, marriage, etc.), the ultimate goal is to not be rejected. This in and of itself creates a lot of subconscious pressure on dates--pressure to perform as opposed to the ability to JUST BE.
Maybe You Can Relate..
I decided I would commit to JUST BEING no matter what on all of my dates. This was the beginning of something truly AMAZING! I learned so much about myself, guys, and the dynamics between men and women. I also learned that dating can be extremely enjoyable and fulfilling.
In the midst of my journey, I got my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. This furthered my passion and commitment to learn the secrets to navigating dating relationships well.
After grad school, I knew for certain I was equipped in a much more powerful way to not only tackle this for myself but to help others transform their dating lives too.
Even though my mind was made up, I delayed pulling the trigger on swinging the doors open to my business as a Dating Coach for a year and instead blogged about single life and dating. During this year, I had the pleasure of interacting with and informally coaching so many single black millennial women. Still, I became more and more eager with each passing day to launch VeronicaMobley.com, which went live on April 13, 2018, while I was in Turks and Caicos on THE most relaxing vacation I’ve ever been on.
As a Dating Coach to single black millennial women, I’m able to pull from my own experience, the empirical data from my education and training, as well as the gems from my very candid conversations with my brothers, guy friends, and any other man who will engage transparently (I call this my secret weapon) to help my clients completely transform their dating relationships.
In this camp, we Date w/ Love + LOGIC!
Can’t wait to help you completely transform your dating life and find your #ForeverBae!